Mary and Martha Part 1
Updated: Jan 26
I've heard this story many times and I can relate to both characters. My desire is to be like Mary, not only with Jesus but with other relationships in my life, however, the pressure to get everything done or have everything perfectly prepared often turns me into a Martha. Whether it's with Jesus or our loved ones, tasks, even when they are done in service to others, do not take the place of building the relationship. Sometimes we can get so caught up in the details, we end up neglecting the very people we are trying to serve. I love to entertain, but what I enjoy most is spending time with my wonderful family and friends. I used to feel a lot of stress over the meal I would cook when I had guests for dinner. I must admit cooking is not my favorite thing. Unfortunately, this often meant spending more time in the kitchen rather than being with my guests. I've learned that keeping it simple and finding recipes where most of the work is done beforehand, allows me to spend more time with the people I am hosting. Another danger when we get caught up in making everything perfect is that we can become disappointed, even bitter when our efforts seem to go unnoticed. Martha is a prime example of this when she asks Jesus to come to her defense. She must have been mortified at his response. He points out that what He wants most is our hearts. Sometimes even our ministry can take us away from our relationship with Jesus. Just like Martha we can feel tired, over-worked and start to feel resentful. At this point, our serving becomes more about us than about Jesus. We need to make sure our relationship with Him always comes first.
1. Do you have a tendency to be like Martha? How so?
2. What tasks or details tend to pull you away from personal relationships in your life?